Ask yourself how desperate for a relationship you are. In addition to the warning signs, here are some commonalities among scammers. They are not all over the Internet—you cannot find them on Facebook or any other sites. They must travel overseas shortly after meeting you.
Remember, they have a plethora of these, but not necessarily of these traits. They state they love you before meeting you in person.
Once overseas, something horrible happens that leaves them broke or close to broke—their money got stolen from their hotel, the taxi cab driver stole it, the airlines forced them to check their luggage and their money was in their carry-on bag that was now checked. If they are asking someone that they barely know, it is either a scam or they have burnt their previous bridges.
Whatever the reason, a smart person or one who travels knows better than to let it occur. Either way, do you really want to get involved with this person? They are not on the alumni list of the college they said they attended, and so on.
Wouldn’t we rather be complimented on accomplishments or what our goals are? Charlatans tell you they love you before they have ever actually met you. Some people can sound great on the phone, but when you meet them there is nothing there; or, physically they just don’t meet your standards. The other part of the “I love you” scam is when they will say something like, “Something in me shifted, and I love you,” or, “I think I have found my soul mate.” Again, they have yet to meet you, and there hasn’t been enough time to know you well enough to truly love you in the way you wish to be loved. There is a reason they wish for you to contact them directly and not use e-mail via the dating site.If there are continual excuses, then you know the person doesn’t really live where they say they do, and/or they are not truly interested in you. Yet, scammers will often indicate that they make more than 0,000 a year. Shortly after the introduction, the person asks about your financials as they wish to know what kind of person they are dealing with. They would rather write and they don’t usually answer the questions that you ask. Again, people who have real wealth do not advertise it.This way, when they get into a jam and request money, the unsuspecting person thinks their investment or loan will actually get reimbursed. In other words, they are really wishing to find out if you are worth their time to scam as you have financial resources to share. So, when a picture flagrantly indicates wealth, one needs to consider if that picture is even real. But, it is easy for a scam to be set up by a foreigner, even one who is not currently in the United States.Think about your friendships—do they ask you about your financials? Did the person go to a boat dock and simply stand in front of a great looking boat and have their picture taken? One of the more popular scams is to pretend to be a resident who has either recently moved to the states in the last two years, or who is in the process of moving to the states.Did they ask a realtor to show them an expensive house and then have their picture taken at the house? They get called back to their home country, or South Africa, to do a lucrative job, with either really important people or for a really good commission or a big paycheck. Don’t they have friends or family that could help them out if the situation was true?“This is a very difficult crime to prove,” Beining said.“When someone is using a computer to hide behind, the hardest thing to find out is who they are.They state that they love you in less than a month. “He was saying all the right things,” she remembered. It’s called a romance scam, and this devastating Internet crime is on the rise.You can be anywhere in the world and victimize people,” she said.“The perpetrators will reach out to a lot of people on various networking sites to find somebody who may be a good target.