So how can you avoid sabotaging a good relationship, or one with great potential?
Relax and start opening up as you become more comfortable with your mate, and if you’re not as comfortable as they are opening up, don’t sweat it. Don’t be afraid of getting hurt by the person you’re with, because they can’t do anything to you that you don’t allow them to. People come into your life for a reason, so take full advantage of learning what you’re supposed to from them and have some fun along the way.
We wait to say, “I love you.” We don’t want to hear those three little words until we know you mean them. It hurts way more to get dumped by someone who claims they love you, which is why we’ll put off the phrase for as long as possible. It’s hard to fully trust after getting screwed over so many times in the past. We don’t want to tell you our deepest, darkest secrets right away because it’ll make us even more attached to you.Relationships are not easy, especially when you’re starting anew and you’re anxious to see where it’s going, because of course you want a positive ending.But you’ll never know where things are going if you don’t give a relationship a fighting chance from the start.And last but not least, you listen to other people’s opinions about your new mate and relationship more than listening and focusing on the facts from your heart.Doing this is a guaranteed way to stop a good thing before it starts.But she may still hear that “little voice” telling her that something is not right. Consider the following advice to protect your heart, make smart dating decisions, and more easily find the person you may be searching for: If we take care to protect our hearts and open ourselves up safely and slowly, we will reduce our possibility of getting hurt.Opening yourself up too much, too quickly may create a pattern of distrust or emotional guardedness with others, making it hard for you to find “the one,” even if he is standing right in front of you. Permission to publish granted by Mieke Rivka Sidorsky, LCSW-C, CST, therapist in Silver Spring, Maryland The preceding article was solely written by the author named above.As things start to escalate upward in positive fashion, you feel good and begin to feel more confident with your newfound happiness, but then all of a sudden you start to pull back from everything.Not only that, but you find yourself communicating less, seeing your new boo even less and less, and you become nonchalant and negative about your love affair! As crazy as this may sound, there are a number of people who find ways to sabotage their relationships. Initially people sabotage promising relationships because they don’t want to get hurt.We try to put up as many walls as possible, because our hearts can’t get broken if we don’t open ourselves up to love. Even if everything is going well, we’ll think of a dozen different things that could end the relationship.It’s hard for us to be happy in the moment, because we haven’t completely gotten over the pain of what has happened to us in the past.