The same goes if you’re looking to date, the chances are Prince Charming won’t sweep you off your feet if you’re replying with one word answers and only asking him what sexual position he prefers. I’ve not done either since last summer (I know), but I needed a reset.
I got caught in the trap of having the same conversations on Grindr, getting frustrated at the same situations.
Having a huge list of requirements people have to live up to not only lowers your chances of meeting someone, it can give you unrealistic ideas of who you actually want to date.
There’s nothing wrong with having core values, characteristics or even a type.
If he doesn’t fit our checklist, we put him back on the shelf.
Maybe that’s part of the problem, we’re spoilt for choice. We’ve become so set in our ways, we treat dating like shopping.The reason for the separation was that one day when I was cleaning his email inbox for him I discovered emails between him and another man.It didn't take long reading them to figure out him and this man had been having sex. There were emails going back at least two years, back to the start of our relationship. I'd forgiven him countless times for cheating with women but this was too much. If I were to go off and sleep with someone else it would be unforgivable in his eyes.If you’re not sure what you want, get out there and find out.Don’t force yourself into someone else’s box and don’t let anyone tell you how to love.I don't believe the 'once a cheat, always a cheat' philosophy.Someone can cheat once in a relationship and never do it again.I think deep down we’re all looking for our happy ever after.But like most things, it’s different for each and every one of us as happiness comes in all shapes and sizes.Their relationship didn't seem to be just a sex thing either, the other man was talking about plans to introduce my boyfriend to his family and all. I don't know if I missed any signs, we became committed very quickly and within a month of dating we were making plans to move in. I discovered he had joined countless dating websites describing himself as gay on his profiles and had been posting messages looking for gay sex on forums. But he thinks I should just forgive and forget and move forward like nothing's happened. I need to address a particular bug bear of mine, and that's you snooping on his emails. You didn't stumble into his email inbox while attacking the laptop with your feather duster. But that doesn't entitle you to snoop on his private communications. Now that the scolding is over, let's address what you did find on your "clean".I confronted him about all this and he wasn't using the websites or sleeping with men any more. Honestly, I feel like I've just been a cover for his family because he's not able to come out. I'm sorry, I just don't buy this 'cleaning his inbox' line. Your boyfriend is a serial, compulsive cheater and liar. Infidelity can happen in relationships for a variety of reasons, however the least forgivable is probably 'not being able to keep it in his pants' syndrome.