I hadn't had a date or a boyfriend for over a year. In that sense, "giving up" on women might be the right answer..now. I learned to quit looking for a girlfriend as a means of fulfillment this past summer.My outlook on life became a LOT better after that, because suddenly this unattainable goal wasn't dominating my thoughts anymore.Video chat with random people online instantly on Shagle.We connect you to live cam to cam chat with strangers, making it easier than ever for you to meet new people online.Actually, the time they set it back was closer to about three weeks.
And, just as you'd expect, I met a wonderful girl at the beginning of this school year, and we've been dating over three months now. Well, I gave up when I was 18, met my hubby when I was 19 and married him when we were 21 (last year).Seriously though, when I was 15, I was planning to fly to Texas to visit a girl I knew. My parents talked to her parents about the trip, and they canceled it.I was rather crushed, and was certain I'd be a permanent virgin, and that my parents set the inevitiable back for years.Although in many countries, movies, meals, and meeting in coffeehouses and other places is now popular, as are advice books suggesting various strategies for men and women, in other parts of the world, such as in South Asia and many parts of the Middle East, being alone in public as a couple with another person is not only frowned upon but can even lead to either person being socially ostracized.Behavior patterns are generally unwritten and constantly changing.You've got a lot of posts very quickly and a whole bunch of them seem to be about your dealings with the opposite sex - perhaps a livejournal would be a good place to work through what you want to say? I say this from experience: I've tended to be "clingy" in my past relationships, which ultimately meant that I was more interested in the other person for what she could do for me, not the other way around. (Men pick up on that too, it just takes longer.) Point being that you can't look to a woman for personal fulfillment.Loads of us sdmb people have livejournals and it's still public enough that a bunch of people see what you say and can give you feedback, but it also means that you have less than 20 bajillion threads on it Funny how that happens! Both my husband and I had given up on dating before we met. For some reason a 'cleansing of the palate' of sorts seems to help. If you're woman-chasing because you feel "left out" or "pressured" (a lot of your classmates and friends are dating, I'll bet), it's the wrong reason to go about it.Ryan, I mean this in a helpful and friendly way - have you looked into getting a livejournal? Happiness is as a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but which if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.It seems like you've got an awful lot of thoughts to share with the world and livejournal is an excellent way to do this in a slightly less public forum. -Nathaniel Hawthorne (1804-1864) Personal observation: if you need a woman to make you happy, you don't deserve one.If you find someone to talk to that seems interesting, just stop pressing the "next" button and you will be able to talk with that person until one of you presses the “next” button to exit the conversation.You never know who you will meet online and retaining your privacy is of utmost importance.