You don’t really want to run into one of your old flames – or one of theirs – and it’s good to go somewhere fresh to you both, free of distractions or associations with other dates.Forget their sexual past Yes, plenty of us have been around a bit, but don’t let it play on your mind when on a date with a new guy.Having fixed ideas of what you want – which usually boil down to looks and little else – could be standing in your way of meeting some great guys.It’s time to think outside the box, look past the beards or muscles, and take chances.Similarly, don’t stress if you can’t go to the gym seven days a week.Find a moderate and healthy balanced diet and work out regimen to keep your body and mind healthy. We all have those nights where we end up drinking too much and crying about how we’ll never meet a guy.You need to do what’s right for you, and not aspire to these ideals that, honestly, don’t work for the majority of queer men out there.
As corny as it sounds, you need to learn to love yourself. Often times, we got so caught up in trying to find a man that we completely forget to spend time with our friends.
Even if someone projects the image of being perfect, or having this fabulous lifestyle, it’s (often) primarily a facade. This isn’t great for our self-esteem and confidence. Remember, alcohol is a depressant, so it can bum us out, especially the morning after drinking.
So instead of striving for perfection, strive for your personal best. This is the best advice my grandpa has ever given me. I’m one of those people who believe that cuddling solves all problems. Just in a “I don’t have a BF and I need to cuddle right now because everything sucks” way.
Be positive Many guys are very clear in their dating profiles – almost rudely so – about what they don’t want or like.
Not only is this far too prescriptive, you also run the risk of coming across as overly negative.