Based on data published by Ok Trends, a blog produced by Ok Cupid, white gay men respond more often to Ok Cupid messages from other white men than from men of color.They respond to messages from other white men 44% of the time but respond only 37.3% of the time to men of color.Queer men of color have fewer options in online dating than queer white men.Data suggests these stories are not uncommon or unique.Ironically, even though white gay men respond to messages in general less frequently than gay men of color they fail to attract the highest rate of responses to the messages they send.Middle Eastern gay men, on average, will receive about 48 responses for every 100 messages they send, while white gay men will receive an average of 45. Response rates vary by race less among lesbian women on Ok Cupid than gay men.But in online dating profiles he uses a common English first name and an Italian surname.
In short, it is because we believe that true compatibility is about more than just liking someone’s profile picture.Not only does it let you be really upfront about what is you want from a relationship, a reputable dating site can connect you with single men seeking women who want similar things.This makes online dating ideal for those who desire true compatibility, right from the start.I want to live in a pluralistic world, where whiteness holds the same value as all other amalgams of race, ethnicity, and culture.[NOTE: It is unclear whether Ok Trends included bisexual men when calculating response rates.White gay men also respond less frequently to messages in general than gay men of color.On Ok Cupid white gay men respond to messages from all races at an average rate of 41.4%, but gay men of color respond to messages from all races at an average rate of 49.3%.These data illustrate that one’s race/ethnicity affects one’s romantic and sexual value in queer communities. Ok Cupid’s data sheds light on casual racism in queer online dating communities, but overt racism is also prevalent.Blogs like “Douchebags of Grindr,” though insensitively titled, point out overtly racist headlines gay men post on their Grindr profiles such as “no blacks” or “white only.” Often, white men attempt to minimize the social harm of their overt racism by claiming their comments are merely “preferences.” But these so-called preferences cause significant harm.Queerness does not give whites a pass to be openly racist.Most queer whites know the pain of social marginalization, yet they marginalize queer people of color in online dating communities.