MORE: 5 Things That Turn Men Off to Relationships Hollywood loves to spread this idea that if someone rejects you, you should just push harder and harder and harder and suddenly, some magic event will happen and you’ll end up together. It’s better I give you a straight-up reality check because reality can be pretty cold when it comes to this kind of thing.The good news is that there’s a way to avoid this and possibly turn things around. Not in a dramatic, mean-spirited or punishing sort of way. I have to imagine the sting is just as bad for a girl when she hears that message from a guy friend she has feelings for. Well, even if your guy isn’t “damaged goods,” I hope you read the last section because backing off is a truly be OK with being just friends right now.
It’s an: “It’s not you, it’s me” situation, except it comes before any relationship has even happened.
Problem is, your feelings for him and what your relationship are just an illusion.
The reality is that when someone hasn’t healed past hurts and relationship wounds, they really aren’t ready to get into a new relationship.( For much more on this topic, make sure to read my article How Guys Deal With Breakups) Now there have been times where the so-called damaged guy jumps into a relationship seemingly out of the blue after months or even years of lamenting about how “damaged” he is.
You never know if your true destiny is to meet your perfect man by accident… Open your options up so that you know that you’re not dependent on just one option. The answer will determine whether the relationship deepens or ends.
I almost feel evil for saying it, but for some guys just seeing that he might lose his shot with a girl can be all he needs to snap to attention and reconsider his feelings for you… Worth noting, but in this case don’t make this your focus. Do you know how a man decides a woman is girlfriend or wife material? If not, you need to read this article next: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman Another major problem is if you think he might be losing interest or pulling away. If not, you run the risk of making the most common relationship-ruining mistakes.