From social media it looks like they’re all too busy promoting brand ‘we’re so in love’ #relationshipgoals. I refuse to believe the only attractive or unattractive thing about me is the shape of my body.But when a fat woman and a thinner man dare to be in love we all see the backlash, from snarky comments in the office to abuse from online trolls. It’s just a body – useful for walking places, talking, writing and singing. And before you say it, no, I don’t just judge men on their looks. It’s a dating site for people who are skinny, fat, and in between, who want to find other fat people (or fat admirers) to be with.This site was created with care by people of the fat admirer/feedist community and it’s a pretty cool thing.My friend Marc — a single dad my age — and I like to share dating war stories.Recently, he giddily kept me posted on the pre-first-date chemistry he shared with a woman he met online.“Extremely promising,” he texted me.Obese fraudster jailed after posing as attractive women on dating sites to con single men out of thousands https://t.co/Xb MWY52Zq H pic.twitter.com/6p IVLe Ok4w — Daily Mirror (@Daily Mirror) December 28, 2016 Once caught, Williams admitted to two counts of fraud by false representation.
Earlier this month a woman got chatting to a man using a picture of Liam from One Direction on a dating app, and she tried to get in as many song lyric puns as possible before he acknowledged what he had done.
Dating when you’re a fat woman means other things too – it’s been suggested to me by several well-meaning people that I join niche sites or groups where men ‘have a thing’ for chubsters like me. I’m as likely to drool over Channing as the next girl or gay, but IRL it usually takes me months to fall for someone based on who they are (again not ideal when you think about modern dating).
But I’m pretty sure an element of my horrendous love life is the fact men see I’m not the ‘perfect’ size and that there’s (apparently) others on Tinder or wherever who conform better.
The really sad thing about all this is that I have a feeling some men are quite attracted to fat women.
Not as a fetish, they just like someone who happens to be fat.