How do I get over these disadvantages so I can get back into dating?
Signed, Confused Dad You're actually much better off than you think.
But if you are 35 , women in their early 20s would never want you, right? First, you must realize that many younger women are more attracted to older men than they are to those drones their own age.
They want someone who is sensitive, mature, and experienced. So you want to find those 20-year olds who want an older man.
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In the early days of our relationship, I got a lot of a lot of exasperated eyerolls, "you go, girl"s, and questions about whether I was technically old enough to be a cougar.At the same time, don't draw attention to her comparative youth.The worst is to lecture her about how you were when you were her age, and what you have learned. Create experiences that she normally wouldn't have - a date off-campus, an interesting restaurant (don't spend too much), or a drive in the country.I also had a lot of friends who couldn't believe how dumb I was — didn't I remember how difficult it was to get a guy to commit at age 24? Of course, I didn't "go through that again," and five years into our relationship, no one really gives a sh*t about how old either of us are.But the experience has made me think about how women are discouraged from dating younger men — especially women in their twenties.The key for you is to start seeing your disadvantages as advantages.For instance: You're not just divorced - you've proven your ability to commit, over a fifteen year period! You have kids - a lot of women you will date have them too.Right now you think you have all these disadvantages - you're too old, you're out of practice, you have kids, and so on.But those aren't minuses - they're plusses, if you play your cards right.Your main problem is that you believe that all these factors are work against you when actually they work for you. It is true, that with some women, being older, divorced and with kids will be a reason to run. They have also been on the Rosanne Barr Show, the Issac Hays show, To Tell the Truth, Fox News, CNN, UPN, and ABC.For more great tips on meeting and dating women or to ask a question go to