But that differential is predicated on a man’s desires, not a woman’s worth.When I look at the text above, I don’t see a man disrespecting a woman, I see a man openly and honestly stating what he is and isn’t looking for.The simple truth is that many of us want love and lust—yet we also have very different qualifications for both.And sometimes we find one in a woman without finding the other. This is not to say that women don’t, but it’s to dispel the common myth that marriage to a man is little more than an inconvenient societal pact that handcuffs a man from being who he really wants to be.Once again, contrary to pop culture references, it doesn’t take pulling teeth to get a man to fall for a woman.
Not only do men love deeply, but we also love expeditiously.
To explore this topic, I pulled aside two individuals who I knew were hunting for a long-term relationship using online dating websites, and asked them about their experiences with the services.
The two services used by these individuals were OKCupid and Match.com, two of the largest and most popular dating websites on the Internet.
But what I also see, which troubles me, is a woman who is taking his desires, and projecting his wants as a definitive statement about her intrinsic self.
If a man doesn’t want to be with you, that doesn’t mean that you must undergo a battery of inspections to improve yourself, it means you’re still on the search for the man that is looking for you.