Despite the fact that we were on our third date, he didn’t even acknowledge my existence as I stood there a couple feet from him while he talked to his friend.
His silence told me exactly how much I meant to him.
While most people only consider the profile pic before swiping right or left, for me, the text on my profile is crucial.
Even since Tinder introduced more genders to choose from than just the binary male and female, it doesn’t show your gender on the swiping screen.
After that, I stopped chasing guys who were too concerned about their feelings to even think about mine.
Red flags like continually postponing dates and constantly asking, “When are you getting the surgery?
” helped me whittle down the number of guys I talked to by half.
Thanks to Tinder, profile pictures say more than a thousand words—and actual words seem to be irrelevant on our profiles.
Unfortunately, these labels don’t appear on their profiles.
These are men who find me attractive, but are initially hesitant because of my trans-ness.
With these men, I went on dates in public at the movies, or a chill restaurant, and I was viewed as more than a new sexual experience—but I don’t think I was seen as potential relationship material either. We vibed well and there was sexual tension building during our dates. After a month, he reached out to me saying he couldn’t be with me because I am transgender.
I stayed in my back seat for probably five minutes to make sure he was gone.
When I got back into the front seat to drive home, I still felt uneasy.