Being your usual flirty foreigner self-will just drive him away. Feminine style So you’ve already prettied up your skin and changed your personality, but you’re still not done yet. It may be the opposite to what you’d expect, but try not to wear revealing clothes.
You might think it ridiculous to change your style in order to get a guy, but if you’re serious about wanting a Japanese boyfriend, you’re going to need to think about how you wear your clothes.
We are most certainly a curiosity, and we often find that people living in our wider neighborhood, and who are complete strangers to us, know our names, our kids' names, and other tidbits about us that only a very well-developed gossip grapevine could supply.
From our coworkers (we worked at the same school) and students we got mostly very positive reactions.
It makes me sad that some think it’s impossible and give up before even trying, especially foreign women.
Most guys want a girl who is smaller than themselves so they can feel manly and protective, and as most Japanese guys are themselves quite slim, their girls have to get pretty tiny. And don’t be too forward with your flirting – keep it subtle. The advice Madame Riri puts forward is to pull rather than push him towards you.
However, when it comes to height it seems like there’s no defining trend; some guys like their girls short, others like them tall. In the West we’re used to big breasts being – on the whole – the way to go, but a guy here is less likely to mention a huge pair of knockers when asked what he would want in his ideal woman. This is probably the essence of her advice; that foreigners can be too brash and in-your-face for the average Japanese man, who wants a meek, quiet lady on his arm, at least in the beginning when trying to make their approach and tensions are high.
The club of western wives of Japanese men has grown quite a lot over the 20 years I have been married, and we are well connected on Facebook groups, and whatnot.
It seems to me that for the most part fellow western wives here have similar issues to deal with, but mostly not things dealing with their communities not accepting them as foreign wives.