Find out as much as you can about him, and the things he values and believes.Those are the things that should be decision makers for you.Well very shortly (about 3 weeks) after we started dating he went underway for 2 months.I knew this was going to be the test on if we would make it or not.Its not the other person's fault that they may have to go away for 6 months, or they have to work late, or come in when they arent on duty, etc. Things can get tough, but at the same time, the good times can be REALLY good. I've tried to let it go and trying to do that and just dealing with it are equally as hard. I'm really struggling with not being able to see him when we make plans or seeing him often and struggling with that he has such a dangerous job.Like I said, its all about what you're willing to put into it and what you're willing to sacrifice. And if you dont come up with much, it may be time to leave it behind. He is stationed in NJ and gets "Removed for OPSEC" at a time every so often. His job the one where he dosnt drive the planes - he flys in them and rescues people.I wrote him letters everyday and transfered them onto the computer so I could send them later.
Find out what his rate (his job) is, and what that means, what he really does.My husband and I got married on a Saturday evening by a sheriff's chaplain. I fixed our first dinner as a wife, and he came home around 11 pm for dinner because that was when he could be there.He sat down, got a call over the radio, and left the food hot on the table to go screaming out our driveway with lights and sirens.I am seeking someone advice on what it is like to be in a relationship with someone in the Coast Guard - Air Crew.I've been talking to someone on and off for a about a year who has been in the Coast Gaurd Air Crew for about 4 years now.And if you arent willing to do that..honestly may as well break it off now.The honest truth is, he was committed to the military before you came around. Whether he's gonna finish out his enlistment and get out, or do 30 years.I've fell for him like I've never felt for anyone in my life and I'm really struggling with this because I never thought I could date someone in the military .... Any way you look at it, whether he is aviation, deck side..is still in the military and still has to obey orders.We dated briefly last summer and after 3 months I was unable to deal with his job anymore. Now in aviation, he's most likely at an air station which keeps him close to home, but even in aviation, he can still be connected to a cutter and go out for 6 months at a time. Wherever the Coast Guard needs him, that's where he'll go.So its all about how much work you're willing to put into it and how much you're willing to put up with.There are times when I dont hear from her for 5 or 6 hours at a time while she's on duty, with no "Hey, Im gonna be away from my phone for a while." But I know she's not ignoring me. Some people who are on cutters are underway for 6 months at a time. The other person is going to have to make sacrifices.