Part of the reason that I married him was that he let me know exactly how debilitating his condition was.
With his doctor’s permission, he actually went off of his medication for a while in order to show me exactly what a worst-case scenario would be like.
Reiss said the nature of the commitment can be a factor in deciding whether to leave.
Married couples take a vow to remain together “for better or worse, in sickness or in health…” where leaving the person “can be seen as abandonment and sabotage – and there is a reality to that perception.” “There are still times it is reasonable to leave, but do not deny responsibility for having broken your promise,” Dr. “You can try to explain it, your reasons may be valid, but take responsibility and validate the other person’s feelings.” If you’re not married, it is NOT abandonment or sabotage, no matter how the other person perceives it.
“They may not be capable of ‘working through’ a relationship ending in an effective way, and mature ‘closure’ may be impossible.
Be kind, but not overbearing, and realize that once you are ending the relationship, your kindness may not be welcome anymore, and that’s ok,” he said. If you come across as hurt or angry because your attempts to ‘let them down easily’ aren’t working, that only makes the situation worse.
His depressive state had caused him to use alcohol as a sort of self-medication.
I have yet to meet the perfect woman on this earth, so we can assume that there is no such thing as a perfect man.
Once I got over needing to have a cartoon as my life partner, I found the love of my life in a package much different than the Disney caricature.
In many ways he was the most in need of help, but he always had the kindest words of encouragement for me and for others in the group.
I asked around to see if his behavior changed just to get me on a date.