I asked her out when I was 20 and we got married when I was 22. I would not be done with getting my masters in pastoral counseling and graduating from seminary until I was 26 years old.
When we got together, we knew we were very compatible and on the same spiritual maturity level but we also knew we both would have to make sacrifices to be together because of our age difference.
Lastly, if people are really shocked by your pairing with this person, it might be a red flag that you want to look at.
Many times dating someone much older or younger can be rooted in unhealthy behavior our wounds from our past.
For example, she had to wait for me to finish up school and get a better job before we could have kids and I was not going to be able to ease into adulthood slowly.
I finished my bachelor’s degree and we had our first child as I was finishing up my master’s degree.
Both Bethany and I were happy to do this and neither thought twice about it.
She was more of the person she would be in life than I was at that time. At 22 years of age I was still transitioning more than she was at 27 years old. We both have, but I have changed more because I was younger when we first met.Speaking from personal experience, however, I have not found this socially awkward at all.For whatever reason most of my friends have always been a little older anyways, but through the years Bethany and I have found couples that we both enjoy.In another sense, however, I think it is helpful to at least know what to expect socially if you date or marry someone in a different age bracket.First off, you should know one social consequence is that you two may have greater difficulty in finding mutual friends that you both enjoy.Is It Socially Acceptable to Date Someone Older or Younger? In one sense, the simple answer here is, “Who cares!” If you two are in love, you both are equally yoked, and you feel God is leading you together, then don’t let people’s opinion of your relationship control the way you live.Your spiritual maturity refers to how much you know about the Bible and how much of that knowledge you live out in your life (Galatians -23).I’m not saying your physical age is not an important factor in relationships.She would have to slow down on some of the life events that normally happen at her age and I would have to speed up some of the normal life events for my age.I would have to skip over some things and get through things faster and she would have to delay some things and wait longer.