"If I was in a relationship it would be more about security and practicality! "And it would have to be with someone who was on the same page.I wouldn't want to be depriving anyone of what they considered a full relationship, so I'm aware that my dating pool is small."Simone realised she was a little different when she was at secondary school.
If you fail to live up to this expectation, your masculinity gets called into question.You might even find that related things like gray-asexuality or demisexuality describe you better.There are many places online where you can learn more about asexuality, and most social networks have a group of aces who are often more than willing to answer any questions you might have or to just listen to what you have to say.You weren't sure where you fit, because none of the possibilities made sense to you. You've fallen in love, possibly even gotten married and had kids, but even after all that, your partner thinks you don't love them because sex has never been as important to you as it is to them. You listened to what they said, tried what they suggested, yet nothing made a difference. When someone is straight, they're interested in people of a different gender. But when someone is asexual, or "ace" as it's called, they're not really into anyone in that way. Asexuality isn't something that needs to be "fixed" or "cured", it's just a part of who you are. Then, once it’s up, if you do anything with it, they’ll say that you have to be thinking of someone while you’re doing it. Hard-ons can happen for any number of reasons, and sometimes people jack off just because it feels good, and sexual attraction is not a requirement for any of it.Maybe you've been baffled by the seriousness and excitement that other people have when they talk about someone who's "hot". Many men dismiss the thought that they could be asexual because they mistakenly believe that asexuality means you're impotent or never masturbate. There is a myth that men are supposed to be hypersexual."In terms of sex drive, it varies from person to person, so a lot of asexuals say they don't have any kind of drive, whereas others say they have but it's like being hungry yet not wanting to eat any particular food." Simone has never had sex, but has been in relationships."I have had brief relationships in the past but I felt like it wasn't really for me.People talk about being hetero-romantic, bi-romantic, homo-romantic etc.Others call themselves aromantic, meaning they're not romantically attracted to anyone.I still thought it was something I could change or just get over somehow.""I wouldn't say being asexual has been a barrier, as I'm quite happy being single," she continues."I would consider being in another relationship in the future, but whether or not that would look like a stereotypical relationship to other people I'm not sure, because I'm really not a physical person at all. A lot like kissing and cuddling and other romantic affectionate physical gestures."So, what would a relationship look like to her?